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In our life and in our work, we all have a number of unresolved issues. These cut into our happiness and success, and often lead to painful mistaks that cost us tremendous time, money, and energy. And the simple truth is this: at their core, most unresolved issues are not intellectual or ideological, but emotional in nature. This short e-book explains the importance of EQ (emotional intelligence, as compared to IQ, or cognitive intelligence) and shares 7 Secrets that if mastered, could raise your EQ by 30 points or more - and transform your life in the process.
What is coaching, and how can it benefit you? Here are a set of pages that answer that question.
What is Coaching?
Getting What You Most Want
Leveraging Your Life
Developing Emotional Intelligence
Seeing In To Your Blind Spots
Strategic Business Planning
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life
Are you a coach, counselor, healer or other type of service professional? Please visit the www.sellingbygiving.net site in order to claim your free practice building kit. This kit contains the full first module of the Selling By Giving course.
What Do You Want? (Word)What do you want? This is a simple question, and the answers to it provide the foundation for our lives and for any work with a personal coach. This is a simple, powerful exercise designed to help you get in touch with your personal answers to this question. It is designed to take between one and two hours to complete, and consists of five simple steps.
Your investment will likely pay off many times over. Getting in touch with what you really want, and then consistently aligning how you choose to invest your time and energy so that it matches your priorities, is one of the most foundational — and often overlooked — keys to success and happiness in life. In addition to the value you will receive in getting in touch with what you most want, there are many hidden levels of depth to this exercise, which you will learn about after you complete it.
Once you are done, please feel free to email your results to us, along with a request for an initial session, where we can analyze the results and help you accelerate your process of personal and spiritual growth.
From Theory to Practice (PDF) - Integral Theory Publication
This paper was presented at the 2008 Integral Theory Conference at JFK University. It talks about the strengths and challenges of Integral Theory, and presents a roadmap for turning integral theory into practice.
Presentation Slides (PDF) - Slides of the conference presentation
Teaching vs. Preaching (PDF) - An earlier version of this article, published in Integral Leadership Review
The overarching breadth and depth of Integral Theory (IT) offers a breathtaking opportunity to create practical, world-changing, consciousness-raising value. At the same time, a key tenet of IT is that each stage of development comes with inherent limitations. In other words, “with every great strength comes an equal challenge.” So when it comes to turning integral genius into widely applicable wisdom, what are the challenges that come with IT’s great strengths? This paper asserts that the radical scope of IT is both its greatest strength and its greatest challenge. If we think of IT as a mountain, the journey into integrally informed wisdom requires climbing the mountain of theory, mastering its gifts, and then bringing them back down the other side. The larger the mountain is, the larger the challenges there are in integrating theory and practice – and IT is a very large mountain indeed.
The Five Core Practices of Spiritual Psychology
These five chapters from the upcoming book Love Beyond Belief walk through the five core practices of spiritual psychology. Each one is an antidote to one of the five core emotional challenges we have to learn to work with: anger, fear, repression, pain and judgment. If your practice building efforts bring up any of these issues (and as far as I can tell, they're supposed to!) please feel free to tap in to these optional resources for extra support in learning how to adopt a "learning orientation to life," and "work your process" with your upset.
Being raised in a devoutly religious home has been one of my greatest gifts, and breaking away from the religion of my youth was one of my greatest challenges. This document (the first chapter of Love Beyond Belief) talks about the strengths and challenges of strong beliefs, and the deep truths my family and I have been learning and living as part of our exploration of this topic.
Five Stages Of Love (PDF)For a number of years I was driven by three profound questions. Question 1: Since all the major philosophies (religion, science, new age spirituality, etc., etc.) seem to be in conflict, how can we know which of them is right? Question 2: Are we evolving spiritually? Question 3: What do I do next, after learning that my hyper-achievements didn't bring lasting satisfaction?
In finding my own answers to these questions, I found what appears to be a remarkably fundamental and counter-intuitive truth — our paths naturally include multiple 180 degree turns as we progress through life. What we must master in one stage of development then becomes the primary aspect we have to let go of two stages later.
For me, this provided the Rosetta stone that, along with Ken Wilber's genius (see Integral Psychology, A Brief History Of Everything, and Sex, Ecology and Spirituality), helped me integrate the many seeming conflicts in society in a way where it becomes obvious how "no one is all right or all wrong", and how we are being guided by the loving hand of evolution towards ever "greater" levels of personal and spiritual growth.
Stage theory is a fundamentally important and subtle topic, which can easily be misused to judge one stage as better than another. This docment presents a highly simplified view of this complex topic. It's from Love Beyond Belief, and it describes the five stages and ten types of love.
Summary: When I was in the throes of my 90-hour startup weeks and I met a seasoned entrepreneur, I would ask them the question, "What is the single most important lesson you have learned?" The most common answer I got was some variant of "life is a marathon, not a sprint." As I started searching for ways to avoid burnout, one of my dearest mentors, Andre Delbecq, gave me this article. It summarizes seven key coping strategies that they found in their research in to the lives of high-tech CEO's who were successfully coping with stress. One other result they found, which isn't mentioned in this paper, is that most successful executives (as defined by health, happiness and life quality) tend to take off 3-18 months between jobs, to restore their energy reserves before plunging back in to the fray.
Title: "Strategies for Personal and Family Renewal, How a High-Survivor Group of Executives Cope With Stress and Avoid Burnout"
Authors: Andre Delbecq (Santa Clara University) and Frank Friedlander (Fielding Institute)
Coaching specifically does NOT do deep therapeutic healing work — we focus on the present and future, on tapping in to your innate greatness, and on getting more of what you want. Sometimes, coaching may be well complemented by therapy. This document explains my recommendations for how to select an outstanding therapist.